Why do people have kids?

I dun kno..

i'm amazed at it, at the rate people breed..
i'm amazed at the fact that everybody's doing it..
i'm amazed at the fact that kids are born everyday out of no apparent reason..
wanted not wanted..
loved not loved..

kalau dari sejarah dunia.. (at least menurut komik peradaban sih..)
padahal kita breeding itu cuma salah kedaden loh..
ingat jaman sel2 itu cuma membelah diri untuk memperbanyak diri..
nah.., pada suatu ketika sel itu membelah diri instead of jadi dua jadi empat (namanya gamet)..
karena mereka hanya punya setengah set gen, maka mereka harus bersatu (tiap dua bersatu)..
maka lahirlah "sex"..
berevolusi sedemikian rupa.., dari sejak telur dikeluarkan lalu dibuahi,
ga ada cangkang gampang dimakan predator..,
maka ada yang punya cangkang lunak.., dikeluarkan lalu cepat2 dibuahi sebelum cangkang mengeras..
berevolusi lagi.., kenapa ga dibuahin didalam aja untuk menghilangkan masalah cangkang ini.., maka lahirlah "sex" dalam bentuk yang familiar sekarang..

Dan.. karena sex inilah.., gamet yang harus bersatu inilah.., lahir konsep kematian.., karena.. kalau dulu sel membelah dua lalu dua lagi jadi banyak dan banyak dan banyak.., tanpa ada yang actually mati..,
maka dengan adanya konsep sex dan bergabungnya dua "setengah set gen" yang berbeda.., maka ada konsep keturunan dan dengan demikian kematian..

so.., because we have kids we die?
well.., for some animals that is true.., ada yang pasangannya dimakan sampai habis setelah sex (untuk tenaga waktu hamil mungkinkah?),
ada yang me-nurture anaknya sampai ga sempat makan dan habis anaknya besar mati (ada ini jenis ikan beneran de)..

so.., why do we have kids??
they are not us.., they have a half different set of genes..
well.., actually to give it up to sex..
the mixing of the half set of genes are actually a superb way of ensuring that the best of genes are mixed up creating stronger and stronger offsprings..
so.. well.., choose your mates wisely..
but then again.., we are wired to choose our mates..
there's a research that said that we are (women) attracted to male who possess a different set of body immune than ours.., the more different, the more we're attracted to them, tis of course to ensure a richer immune at our offsprings..

so.., will i have kids?
after all these study into the necessity of having kids which proves that it has no particular good reasoning
probably, i'd say 80-90% yes i will have kids.
WHY?
the answer stays the same though..

i dun kno.

when love subsides

the outside world is never safe.
you know it yet it's where you are
you're there by choice, are you not?

you know what's coming toward you..
what looms ahead, what lies beneath
yet you choose it anyway, do you not?

the outside world has it's glory
with its abundant opportunities, endless options
it is what you want
so it's where you are
by purpose
by choice
is it not?

outside the warmth of the tribes you thrive
outside the warmth of the protectorates you venture
for the quest of numerous channels which lies ahead

you know none will die for you
you are an outsider
none will cover you in times of needs
you will need to make your way as you go
for you are out there in the wild
outside the warmth of the tribes
you know this, do you not?
still you venture and you thrive

and exactly that
is what you do
exactly that
is what happens
and exactly that is what's realizing

you venture and you thrive
and above the mists, you rise.

when in doubts, communicate

In the long run, you are always better off by communicating.
Take responsibility and talk.
Staying silent solves nothing.

The Marriage

Beberapa hari yang lalu, aku menghadiri kawinannya saudara gua..
Dari Medan aku terbang ke Jakarta, dari bandara langsung naik bis DAMRI ke Gambir. Dari Gambir catch a train (which was delayed for 4 hours!!!) to Yogya, di Yogya di Stasiun Tugu langsung dijemput adikku naik mobil dan kita langsung ciao ke Madiun (gara-gara delay kereta itu aku jadi miss misa kawinannya, cuma dapet resepsinya aja).

Wah.., senang deh kumpul keluarga semua. Pada gokil - gokil lagi.., aku dansa sama adikku Ruben, terus adik2ku dan sepupu2ku pada maju nyanyi gitu.., dari nyanyi yang romantis - romantis sampai nyanyi Teman Tapi Mesra.., belum lagi Tante gua Tante Elly yang lucu itu.., dia nyanyi campur sari.., pokoknya it was a warm kawinan party deh. Malemnya kita kumpul di rumah Tanteku yang di Madiun itu dan the groom barengan kita-kita pada minum2 eheheheh..., aku cuma minum vodka pepsi blue satu shot aja, karena nanti musti nyetirin tu anak-anak yang udah minum2 balik ke hotel. heeheh... nggak cewek nggak cowok.. pokoknya kacau seru semua gitu deh.. Bahkan the groomnya, sepupu gue, kayanya nggak consume marriagenya malem itu deh, orang malah mabok ma kita, dan istrinya malah dah tidur dari jam berapa tuh.., capek kayanya. Walhasil tu kamar yang harusnya kamar pengantin yang udah diseprai-in yang bagus malah ga ada yang make, padahal lagi banyak banget orang yang tidur di hall2 gitu.. sampe-an. Karena the bride tidur ma sepupuku in law yang satu lagi, the groom mabuk2an ma kita2. Sementara yang lain ga berani tidur di kamar itu. Cuma gue doang yang berani, itupun cuma sebentar, nungguin adik-adik selesai ngobrol2nya.. (apa gara2 udah gua tidurin yah jadi dia orang jadi males ehehehheh)...

Ngomong2 tentang the marriage, dari seluruh sepupuan gua, ini baru marriage yang kedua yang take place dari keseluruhan ke-13 sepupu bersepupu dari nyokap gua. Padahal ya udah tua-tua lho, yang umurnya 28 keatas udah ada 6 orang termasuk aku. Tapi yang merit ya baru dua itu.
kalau pacaran wah.., udah jagonya..., pada pacaran either udah menahun (lama banget) atau udah banyak ganti2. Tapi ya gitu deh.., ga tahu kenapa, merit di keluarga ini memang agak susah.., bukan karena banyak persyaratan, tapi memang marriage itu kaya a bit forbidden gitu di keluarga kita. It is not discussed, if the subject emerged it will be ridiculed in a jokingly sarcastic not really welcome manner, or it is simply being dismissed.
Menurut teori sepupu gue yang di Menado sana.., it is because all the Tantes and the Ooms are very strong. They are strong parents that take care of their children very very well, too well even, wholeheartedly a bit imprisoning, even after we pass adulthood. hehehe...


Yet the egg is now has been broken. Somebody has opened the door. Hopefully it will be easier now hehehe.. My cousin of mine has already plan her wedding. Me..? Well..., I don't know about that. My idea of marriage is having my bo and I exchange vows and then that is the end of it. hahaaahha...
Due to the intricacy and complexity of a mixed marriage, we decided that our hometown's atmosphere is too densed for our marriage, so probably we'll do it here in our town. :D
Where the atmosphere is lighter, the culture is less bonding, and the people are more ignorant. :D AND..., it is far from the center of our families. Less family will attend which means less tension. They will not be familiar with this town, so they will be a lot less powerful. hehehe...
And of course, the most important reason of all!.. Jakarta's people gives bigger ang pao!!!

AHAAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA......


:D :D :D
so, still, money talks, it's economy, s****d...

hahaha.., joking lah yauwwww!!!

:D
rea

Stop

A song unsung is not a song, but then does it make it less beautiful..
A book unread is not a book?
Well then that is
not logical.
What do I
want to write?
To tell you truth..
I do not know.
I better stop now
then
before I start
annoys you.
And so I do.
Stop.

A Poem to the Sumatran People

Simple ode to Medanese and Palembangese...

Your way is different, less camouflaging and more direct,
Your language is different, though I hear here and there a glimpse of our shared words, our shared origin..
Your scope of life is different, more vivacious, melodious, romantic
And your will to live, definitely is strong and full

Medan is full of delicacies
Palembang is clean beyond compare
Medan's architectures are old and beautiful
Palembang's Ampera is huge and strong..

Sumatera.., you are definitely beautiful.

rea

I've Never Been to Me

(Rea's favourite part)
Hey lady, you lady, cursing at your life
you're a discontented mother and a regimented wife
I have no doubt you dream about the things you'll never do

but I wish someone had talked to me like I wanna talk to you
Oh, I've been to Georgia and California and anywhere I could run
Took the hand of a preacher man
and we made love in the sun
But I ran out of places and friendly faces
Because I had to be free
I've been to paradise but I've never been to me
Please lady please lady
don't just walk away
Cause I have this need to tell you
why I'm all alone today
I can see so much of me still living in your eyes
won't you share a part
of a weary heart that has lived a million lives
Oh, I've been to Nice and the isle of Greece
where I sipped champagne on a yacht
I moved like Harlow in Monte Carlo
and showed them what I've got
I've been undressed by kings
and I've seen some things that a woman ain't s'pose to see
I've been to paradise .....

(Harum's favorite part)
"Hey, you know what paradise is?
It's a lie
a fantasy we created about people and places
as we like them to be
but you know what truth is?
it's that little baby you're holding
and it's that man you fought with this morning
the same one you are gonna make love to tonight
that's truth that's love"

Sometimes I've been to crying for the unborn children
that might have made me complete
but I, I took the sweet life
I never knew I'd been bitter from the sweet
I spent my life exploring the subtle whoring
that costs too much to be free
hey lady I've been to paradise...

Harum's favourite song :D